Show HN: Autism Simulator

autism-simulator.vercel.app

273 points by joshcsimmons 4 hours ago


Hey all, I built this. It’s not trying to capture every autistic experience (that’d be impossible). It’s based on my own lived experience as well as that of friends on the spectrum.

I'm trying to give people a feel for what masking, decision fatigue, and burnout can look like day-to-day. That’s hard to explain in words, but easier to show through choices and stats. I'm not trying to "define autism".

I’ve gotten good feedback here about resilience, meds, and difficulty tuning. I’ll keep tweaking it. If even a few people walk away thinking, "ah, maybe that’s why my coworker struggles in those situations," then it’s worth it.

Appreciate everyone who’s tried it and shared thoughts.

estimator7292 - a few seconds ago

Extremely disappointed about the amount of ableism in the comments. Yes, some kids these days pick the autism label when they probably shouldn't, but that does NOT mean you get to shit on actually disabled people

Plenty of autistic people experience actual disability. And masking isn't just "what everyone does at work". Masking is a trauma response. Autistic people in genral have been abused for their 'abnormal' behavior to the point of being so traumatized that masking is not even a choice. They must hide for fear of further abuse and harassment.

Abuse such as "everyone's a little autistic" and "that's not a disability" or "you just want attention"

Making passing judgements on someone's disability that you clearly don't understand makes you a bigoted asshole. Stop it.

Glyptodon - 7 minutes ago

A lot of the behaviors this seems to force I don't understand - like railroading whether to skip breakfast or not. I am well aware that for kids with autism frequently there are feeding issues, but what's going on in the "simulation" is very not clear to me.

Similarly, I don't understand the decisions related to the driving environment: it appears to be a personal vehicle, surely you, as the owner, can make the interior environment something that's as close to personally comfortable as possible? Maybe I'm missing the takeaway from the driving decisions.

Related, what is or isn't masking seems very confused. To begin with, it's not just code for "hiding or not hiding behaviors that appear socially irregular." But it's also not the case that deciding whether to participate in a non-working-hours event is or isn't masking in of itself.

Presenting behavior in a socialized way when necessary is a skill that's harder (as I understand it) for those on the autism spectrum, but I don't think that makes every application equivalent to masking.

latexr - an hour ago

> To keep your job and avoid conflict, you must "mask." Masking means hiding your natural habits and feelings, while imitating the social behaviors that coworkers expect.

Why do both eating a proper breakfast and skipping breakfast affect your masking negatively? No one is around, what different does it make?

justonceokay - an hour ago

In my opinion the entire structure of scrum and sprints is structured to help people with autism and adhd. Most workplaces that produce creative output are much more focused on soft power, networking, and hard deadlines—things that really don’t work for the “au-dhd” crowd.

It’s easy to remove the locus of control by saying “this environment wasn’t built for me” but do appreciate how much it actually /is/ created for you.

legitster - 6 minutes ago

I guess I don't really understand "masking". I made all of the decisions I would make if I was feeling overstimulated. I scheduled the coffee date for later. I put on headphones to block out the noise. I turned down going to the charity thing. But then I lost because I was "masking too hard"?

In my mind these decisions were literally the opposite - I was being honest about what the character wanted and was making space for myself.

Is masking about faking interactions with other people? But nearly everything that I get dinged for about masking doesn't even involve others. Is it about hiding symptoms from others? Or from hiding things you don't like from yourself?

f0e4c2f7 - 35 minutes ago

I don't like the premise of this game. If you're autistic, don't mask. Live authentically as yourself and find people who love you for who you are.

You'll annoy the hell out of some people, and thats fine. They can find other people to spend time with.

You can probably find a good community where you are, and if not just move to SF which is something like the autism homeland. Being autistic there is valorized and even imitated in sort of amusing ways.

Masking is a kind of hell, living someone else's life. Unmasking and living as yourself feels scary at first but the people who will love you that way can only find you if you live that way.

kokey - 2 hours ago

I love it, I have been meaning to put together a similar simulation to demonstrate the effects of interruptions and context switches on developers.

Something like the following: - a game or puzzle which requires working memory, like matching pairs or some puzzles that need a lot of working memory and/or flipping between screens - this gets interrupted by fullscreen interruptions of someone's face, and text asking questions, or announcing something, and you have to pick an answer or a reaction (multiple choice) - it could start with questions like 'hi, are you busy?' or 'can I ask you a question?' - answers which tries to end the conversation quickly could lead to even more demanding reactions or questions - interruptions stating there is an emergency can lead to a lot of questions and answers which then leads you to discover than it is in fact not an emergency - once one of these engagements finish you can return to the game and try to complete it - you'll get multiple interruptions like this - other interruptions can also flash up, like a notification that a meeting is due in x minutes - it could then have a short simulated meeting, perhaps just a line by line scroll of dialogue between others, where you need to say nothing - however, at some point someone will ask you directly about one of the items discussed, and you will be given a set of fairly ambiguous multiple choice answers which you will have to try out until you get to the 'correct' one - at the end of the meeting you return to the working memory task/game - this gets interrupted by someone then asking you about the action points in the meeting - return to the game - get notifications about the end of your work day coming up - more interruptions, etc.

lq9AJ8yrfs - an hour ago

I tried this -- I am undiagnosed, but my kids are diagnosed. On one hand I thought parts over-dramatized, on the other hand I thought parts were watered down.

Misophonia for me does not give me any choice. Either the noise stops or I am leaving. If necessary I will explain later. If the noise stops I am possibly leaving anyway in case it starts again. Fortunately in my case the trigger is pretty obscure, like nails on a chalkboard type of rarity -- people don't actually do that so often.

The explanations I thought were dramatized. One of the challenges I think people with autism have is trying to explain their reactions and coming up with things that neurotypical people cannot relate to. It is more like reflexes. I'd be slack-jawed if my co-worker asked me to explain why my leg moved when the doctor hits my knee, "it just does that when you hit it that way", "probably something to do with ligaments, or tendons? IDK". Could you make an "undiagnosed" mode where your scores just go up and down?

And the options -- when the people team came through at $bigcorp and announced tiny hotdesking, I filed all the necessary paperwork, gave constructive feedback, worked with my manager etc, but started looking for new work immediately and noped out at the first opportunity. The people team was happy to close the file which was growing fat with demerits like not hanging my coat the right way, but my peers and reports were upset. well done people team! This was at a company that professed to be supportive of neurodivergence.

cgio - 3 hours ago

Is it supposed to work. I am in the spectrum and I feel like while energy may go to zero, there is in reality a separate resilience masking, where you actually keep up for the rest of the day. Also cannot relate to medication. I don’t think that’s a necessary part of the experience.

INTPenis - 7 minutes ago

It changes with age too. Like the first question I was presented with was 1. Take time for self-care, 2. Get straight to breakfast and work prep.

Yeah in my 20s, and early 30s, I could eat breakfast while logging onto the computer and starting to work.

But now in my 40s I take some time for self-care, not sure if it counts, but it's difficult to answer a question like that with either or.

Decades on the computer has forced me to do Yoga every morning too. So it's not like I want to do it, I just realized that I have to.

I lost when I went to a work outing instead of staying home, but I had RSVP'd to the outing. This is what the game doesn't cover, I never RSVP unless I can keep my word. Never commit!

byearthithatius - 8 minutes ago

Nowadays given how wide the spectrum is, basically 95% of people can call themselves autistic. "Masking" is called being an adult and doing things you don't want to. Autism is like the new "I'm different" tag for functional adults.

skylurk - 3 hours ago

What's it like for people not on the spectrum? Can someone share a "Normal Simulator"?

yreg - 2 hours ago

I think this is nice as it underlines how certain seemingly small things can feel incredibly disturbing to another individual (non-autistic one as well!)

It seems like one of those games that I'm going to recall in various situations in the future.

The ADHD modal is hilarious.

p_ing - 3 hours ago

> Someone from the "People Team" appears at your desk with a bright smile and a clipboard.

THE WORST! Why can't we just work?! Do stuff, make money, get the f- out.

ryandrake - 2 hours ago

Getting "old internet" vibes from this one. Good job.

I'm not at all familiar with Autism, and I have no idea what "Masking" means at all, but every option I choose seems to lower that stat, to the point where I never make it to day 2. Is there a cheat sheet that lists the "correct" selections at each step?

andy_ppp - 17 minutes ago

Oh, am I autistic then? :-|

Honestly I think everyone feels like this to some degree and most people are hiding their contempt for the structures at work.

darepublic - 20 minutes ago

Love the aesthetics of this. Very cool. Love that its a game for web and just a really interesting choose your own adventure deal.

As for the game itself, it seems a bit punishing / too pessimistic? I don't want to be insensitive but I don't think my choices would lead my character, who was maintaining a full time job for this long, to collapse at their desk midday and be fired.

onraglanroad - 2 hours ago

I'm not autistic but in the intro it says "promtotions" instead of "promotions".

I think that's the most I can deal with today ;)

b3lvedere - 2 hours ago

Nice game, but indeed simplified. Did not make it to day 2. Autism is a huge spectrum. I have a family member who needs constant care in a facility because he will try and destroy everything he does not like, but also another one who has light Asperger’s syndrome and functions like society would like him to be as long as you respect his social capabilities. As with most mental things, because people can’t see or sense it, they don’t understand and it gets very very difficult to even acknowledge or respect it.

giantg2 - 2 hours ago

"Since you've decided to not disclose your autism at work, you'll be raw dogging it today and every other day. This seems marginally better than the alternative of being potentially passed over for promtotions or raises."

I was passed over without disclosure. When I did disclose, they tried to fire me. It would be great if they add a feature where you're told for a decade by peers, leads, and managers that you're at the next level, but never actually get there. Then they try firing you while the internal interviews give feedback about how you're likely overqualified for roles at your level. How's your mental health doing after that? The game should add a part about wanting to get hit by a bus during your commute so you cana avoid the torture.

boogieknite - an hour ago

not autistic but i also mask like crazy at work. my experience is its the default mode in consulting

the first 2 years i had a sense that i needed to read between the lines in many conversations and asking for clarity on topics of budget, clients, and contracts was not done. to be clear: asking for details on requirements is completely normal and encouraged

ive become competent at compartmentalizing after 5 years. ive offered unsolicited advice to my less socially aware coworkers which only lead to more confusion as they had not noticed things said "between the lines" and have almost no interest in clients

i cant imagine having to mask through day-to-day life and a job which demands masking by people without disability. no wonder i didnt make it to dinner in the sim

languagehacker - 2 minutes ago

Thanks, I hate it. Keep an eye out for Nathan Grayson sliding into your DMs though.

tithos - 2 hours ago

If you've met on autistic person you have met exactly on autistic person.

this is a fun idea and I like it. You're experience wont be the same as my.

landl0rd - 10 minutes ago

This is sort of silly. Everyone has to "mask" at work. I do not care if the HR lady tells you to "bring your whole self". Unless your whole self happens to be precisely what they want, it is a lie. And nobody is that conflict avoidant, fake-happy, and deeply committed to shareholder value while upholding the strongest standards of ethics and work ethic.

This is a grind for pretty much everyone. To give you the other side, to someone extroverted and socially attuned, the fake nonsense is more grating and insulting than it is to you, I'd guess. Life is hard and everyone has his cross to bear.

steeleyespan - 3 hours ago

What is the medication you're supposed to take? Ritalin or something?

twalla - 2 hours ago

The back-to-back Robert Caro mention and unskippable ADHD Wikipedia popup hit too close to home.

fifilura - an hour ago

That desk thing hits a nerve as someone on the other side of it.

It is not about "hot desk" but just not being able to see that some time you will need to reorganize how you sit. And not everyone will get the perfect spot.

Is it really a thing for some people that you need to sit on the same place always? I was never sure how much it offended some people or if they were just being comfortable.

senordevnyc - 5 minutes ago

Hmm...I recognize the opening description well as someone who has ADHD. But honestly I don't know anyone who is neurotypical for whom the description wouldn't apply as well.

rcarmo - 12 minutes ago

Not enough meetings or e-mail.

barrenko - 3 hours ago

This may be incredibly offensive, but how big could a potential overlap be between ADHD and autism?

byearthithatius - 13 minutes ago

"Masking" to me just sounds like being a person. I want to tell my boss fuck you, but I can't. So I say I am frustrated.

p_ing - an hour ago

This is one audiovisual representation of Autism that some of us can relate to.

https://psyche.co/videos/enter-the-sensory-world-of-an-overs...

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byte_0 - 2 hours ago

Very nice game. Barely made it to getting to the office and receiving orders from a manager. I could completely relate to the "hot desk" experience, that's something that would irritate me. I do not claim to be in the spectrum, nor have any diagnosis to claim or reject it. Again, congratulations for the game and the feeling.

shrx - 27 minutes ago

I've just got fired for calling my mom.

pona-a - an hour ago

Have you heard of Depression Quest? It's a very similar idea: a text adventure about managing depression.

It faced some controversy in its day. Do you think now is a better time for games like this?

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ajmurmann - 3 hours ago

Is it possible to even make it through day 2?

_fat_santa - 3 hours ago

Question: are there any good resources out there for leading those that are neurodivergent? I haven't led anyone that's neurodiverent yet but it's something I think alot about.

Fokamul - 2 hours ago

Bro, I'm not autistic, but 99% events in this game would trigger me even more than in your game.

Eg.: party near my desk (near my office, even in my office) I will personally cancel their "party", or message each of their bosses etc.

I think, the best thing you can do is to don't care about anybody, "I'm (we're) here to work, if you're not here to work then GTFO".

"Let's have camera's on"...ehm no thanks ;-) etc.

I'm still polite though, I would say highly polite, but if anyone behaves like an idiot, then they will have a problem with me.

Is really being autistic, meaning you take shit from other people all the time? I'm not sure.

WASDAai - 3 hours ago

Nice game this is all i can say

deepsun - 2 hours ago

Game just _assumes_ you drink coffee. That's a big decision, and I'd say coffee wears you down at least as much as everything else on the long run. Sure, short-term effects can be good, same as alcohol.

Seriously. Skip coffee.

voodooEntity - 2 hours ago

Remove the medication part than this seems like a normal day in IT as a single man.

beeflet - 3 hours ago

Autism is as difficult as the oregon trail. Woe is me.

reactordev - 2 hours ago

Ugh, it’s like replaying the trauma of my life the last ten years… 10/10.

mustaphah - 3 hours ago

Autism may be the price of human intelligence [1]

[1] https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2025/09/250927031224.h...

idiotsecant - 19 minutes ago

Wow this game gives me some serious anxiety, haha.

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marky1991 - 3 hours ago

I swear I went home from work but then got fired from my job for falling asleep at my desk. I don't understand what happened. (And even if I did fall asleep at my desk, who fires an employee for falling asleep once?)

ikerino - 3 hours ago

Eh, this just feels like "software engineering simulator." I don't have autism but a good bit of this feels familiar (am I on the spectrum?) I'm an introvert and have struggled to cope with corporate work for a while.

What helps:

- Challenging the idea that you need to mask to be successful. If masking is a recipe for burnout, then it actually seems like it's a strategy that will lower your chance for success. How much of the need here is self-imposed?

- Owning your calendar and timing for meetings to better suit your energy.

- Regular therapy and reflection, honestly.

- Regular exercise, doesn't matter who you are or what form, this is essential.

I can respect that this "simulation" fosters empathy, but worry that it also awfulizes/catastrophizes solvable problems. Figuring out functional routines and managing burnout is just as big a part of the job as writing code. It's very much a personal responsibility, maybe not in the job description, maybe harder for some than others, but it is our responsibility.

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hartator - 2 hours ago

Is it possible to win?

Most I was able to do is day 2. Probably realistic.

incomingpain - 2 hours ago

I died of dysentery. I didnt know that was even possible.

jmkni - 39 minutes ago

The last game I want to play is "Me Simulator"

Right off the bat, I don't do "self-care" in the morning and I don't eat breakfast, so I can't get past #1

zwaps - an hour ago

Wait, this isn’t normal?

ammanley - 2 hours ago

I could hear the misophonia dialogue

ralusek - 42 minutes ago

I woke up, didn't focus on self care, didn't take medication, and got fired immediately. That doesn't feel very realistic

mrjay42 - 3 hours ago

Whoever chose flashy colors for this is a motherfluffer :')

stego-tech - 3 hours ago

Solid slice of the more extreme side of the autism spectrum for those who can still function within “normal” society, albeit with some assistance and tolerance.

I’m lucky enough to be on the lower/moderate side of things, but man all of this stuff hit home in its own way. Annoying noises (for me it’s the whine of cheap electronics or the chaotic bass of some music genres/upstairs neighbors), the forceful imposition of others in my space (“cameras on!”, scented cleaners, voluntold activities), and the daily task micromanagement to get by (do I call a friend/family member since they’ve texted me three times today about a trivial matter, or do I watch comfort shows and work on a personal project?).

This shit is hard, and adding in the requirement to engage in political maneuvering to succeed and thrive makes it exponentially worse.

I just want to do a good job and go home to live the best life I can. I suspect most autists are the same.

qwertytyyuu - 3 hours ago

Wait sleeping doesn’t restore eneger to people who have autism wha?

sim7c00 - an hour ago

amazing. realistic too. i had a burnout after 2 moves

semiinfinitely - an hour ago

> To keep your job and avoid conflict, you must "mask." Masking means hiding your natural habits and feelings, while imitating the social behaviors that coworkers expect.

is this even autism specific?? ha

sigfubar - an hour ago

I’ve learned so much, and it took only a few minutes. What a treat.

I had no idea about masking, even though I’ve been doing it for as long as I remember being alive. Aaaah, it’s so draining. When I was younger (in my 20s) I used to think there’d come a time when I’d finally come out of my shell. I’m pushing 40 now, but the shell is only thicker, the cave deeper, the walls taller. Instead of dreaming that one day I’ll be “like everyone else”, I’m contemplating the day I’ll cease to exist. Funny.

gadders - 2 hours ago

Did you use HN as training data?

slaterbug - 3 hours ago

I feel called out :)

SubiculumCode - 2 hours ago

Autism is not one thing.

artur_makly - an hour ago

love the ADHD popup intrusion.

jakey_bakey - 23 minutes ago

Lol my life is an autism simulator

rustystump - an hour ago

Sad that autism has become such a trend. I have a niece on the spectrum and it was obvious at a very young age luckily she is more high functioning now via years of therapy.

No one wants to hear it but there is a vast difference between those on the spectrum and those not. I am in tech and i have never met anyone autistic. This is because the sad reality is that autism makes it that hard to hold down a job even if high functioning.

It is grossly over exaggerated by many and used as an excuse. This is not saying anyone here does that but in media it is extremely common. This only makes it harder for those who do suffer from it. The majority of autism stereotypes are almost all on the high functioning side. Closer to the low functioning side, it is very sad.

cratermoon - 3 hours ago

The blinking Autism Simulator text, in black on yellow, in the upper left is very distracting.

KPGv2 - 2 hours ago

This was too real thanks I hate it.

rasengan - 3 hours ago

Cool game. That said, autism is a spectrum. You can’t just say “this iz wut autism like.”

FrustratedMonky - an hour ago

lol, failed immediately you have to be honest

tropicalfruit - 2 hours ago

good writing. you should write a short story. i would read.

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